I want you to think about something.
When was the last time you really felt “happy”? I mean, really happy? Where were you? Who were you with? What did you do? Why are you feeling so happy?
Most likely, it was not something you carried, bought, or possessed. The odds are probably an experience, a performance or a moment with someone you really care about.
Now think about something else.
Open your closet. Take a look at everything you have in your room and in your house. All the stuff, the furniture, the appliances, the electronics and the clothes. How often do we deceive ourselves, our happiness is based on this crap? Would you believe me if I told you that you do not need a majority of these things to be really happy?
If you really think about it, we do not need so much to deal with it. Regardless of this reality, many of us still have an excess of possessions that we do not even really need, but think that we do.
We believe that material things are the key to happiness. Television, billboards, movies and media always try to make us believe that we have problems we do not have to buy to buy things we really do not need. We become the perfect consumer driver, are positive emotions, spending our money on things that are basically just that. Stuff.
Most of us are not even aware of this self-denial. We work with autopilots and accept that we do not really like the job that earns a lot of money to buy things we do not need.
“THE THINGS YOU OWN ARE WHAT YOU OWN. IT IS ONLY IF YOU LOSE EVERYTHING THAT YOU CAN GIVE EVERYTHING.”
Maybe you really liked this new shirt. I’m sure the temporary endorphin intoxication felt good when you attach it and show it to your colleagues on Monday.
Then on Thursday the new old comes. The high is gone, the clock turns back and we do it all again. A vicious circle of disappointment. They buy a new shirt to be old, then old and another and then another. Rinse and repeat with pants, shoes, car, house and then question why you have to have a high paying job, work overtime and ask yourself if you really need the money.
But unlike money we can always earn, we tend to forget that we are actually wasting time.
The truth is, once we realize that we do not need much to be happy. Then we have to free ourselves from the circulation and make ourselves free. Instead of collecting or hoarding material that makes no sense to our lives, we should spend our resources, our money and our time on experiences. Spending money on a new hobby or sport or learning a new skill. Growing even the simplest levels gives you a sense of self-fulfillment that strengthens happiness and spurs you on to continue to improve. The most important thing is the experience.
The best thing about experiences is how to share them with people. When you find something, you enjoy doing and share it with someone you care about, truly meaningful moments of real happiness are created.
Life is short. Nobody has ever put in his deathbed and regrets that he has not spent more time in the office to buy more shirts. When you look back on your life, you wish you had done more, learned more, seen more, loved more, learned more, learned more. Has taken more risks, has developed in the direction of fear and has begun to live his life in accordance with their own wishes.
But it is not too late. I’m not saying to give up your job and be a hippie. I’m just talking about what’s really important to you. Take a break. Consider whether what you think you need is what you need. Do not compare your life with others. Find out what moves you and never let it go.
So let’s go back to the beginning. When was the last time you really felt “happy”? I mean, really happy? Where were you? Who were you with? What did you do? Why are you feeling so happy? These are your values. Now start living your life after them.